What made you both decide to become health and life coaches?
My passion is to help women see that it is never too late for them to become all that God created them to be. I want women to know that they are never beyond the loving and gracious reach of Almighty God and that He has a purpose and a plan for their life. This passion was ignited in me when I realized these truths in my own life, but it would take decades for me to have the courage to step out and pursue this dream of walking along side women helping them to know these same truths for themselves.
You see I was excited about all that God was doing in my life, and I wanted so desperately to share it with others, but like Peter when he jumped out of the boat to walk on water, took his eyes off Jesus and began to sink when he saw the waves and the storm, I focused on my insecurities and doubts and they kept me from pursuing those dreams for fear of failure or rejection.
I soon began to struggle with identity and searched for meaning and satisfaction in people pleasing and performance. I hid behind masks and excuses. I lingered too long in places because they were familiar and seemed safe, rather than trust God with my dreams.
I know what it is like to not invite anyone in to really get to know you. My life looked all good on the outside, but on the inside was lonely and empty and with each day that passed I began to lose hope that the dreams that now lay dormant in my heart would ever see the light of day. I felt my purpose slipping away and I was becoming ineffective and unproductive and joy was becoming harder and harder to experience.
What changed it all? What made me draw a line in the sand and say, “No more”? My wake-up call was the day my father died in my arms.
I was talking to him in one moment and without any type of warning, without any time to prepare, the next moment he was gone. I was helpless to revive him and in an instant everything in my life changed.
I am saddened that it took losing my father for me to gain a new perspective on my life, but I am grateful for God’s love that the pain I experienced in losing my father was not wasted, but in a way it saved me.
It woke me up to realize that life is too short and precious to allow doubts and fears to stand in the way of God’s plan for my life. It gave me the courage to take off the mask and lay down the excuses. It taught me how to invite others into my life and allow them to see the areas where I struggle and allow them to speak into the key places of my life where I forget who I am and to hold me accountable. It gave me the freedom to me and to become all that God created me to be.
Now I want to share all that I have learned with other women who find themselves in similar situations. Maybe you have a dream that you are afraid to reach for, perhaps you’re just stuck in some area of your life and need help moving forward.
It might be you simply need some clarity, someone to help you see the things you can’t see yourself. It could be you simply need a safe place to allow your heart a voice. Whatever it may be, I don’t want you to be like me and allow a decade or more to go by and wake up and realize that you are no further along than when you started.
I want you to know that you can get free of self-sabotaging behaviors and move forward into what God has called you. Life is too short to not make the most of every day that God has blessed us with. After all, each day is a gift. That is why God calls it, “The present.”
~ Lisa Bluhm
How about you Barb?
My desire to help women stems from my own struggle with weight and a battle with negative self- talk. It is my passion to help women who feel stuck in the area of their health and weight. I want them to know that no matter where they are on their journey they can get free of self-sabotaging behaviors and destructive self-talk.
I want to help women find the right tools, support and accountability to simply find a healthy lifestyle that honors God and helps them to be a good steward of the body and health that they have been given. You see every night for years I found myself on the couch eating chips and soda or whatever I could get my hands on. I didn’t just stop with one serving. I would eat it all, the whole bag, the whole container, the whole pizza.
I knew I was going to feel terrible, bloated and fat and the voices in my head where screaming for me to STOP, STOP, STOP! When I finally reached the point where I couldn’t put another thing into my mouth, along came the bloat, the food coma and so much pain that I couldn’t even cry, which in turn triggered the unending self-hate talk that I couldn’t seem to turn off in my head.
This cycle went on for years until by the grace of God I realized that I was using food to cover up emotional pain that I had been stuffing deep down inside me and not dealing with. I was emotionally, physically, and verbally abused as a child, which left me feeling that I was never good enough, smart enough, or worthy enough of love. I felt alone in my marriage and like I never could quite measure up to those that I loved the most.
So after everyone went to bed at night, I dealt with all this pain by eating. No, binging! Eating seemed easier than confronting or dealing with all the hurts that lingered in my heart. Eating was easier than allowing myself to yearn for something more, something more fulfilling.
The problem was that the eating only numbed the pain in the moment, but all the while it was wrecking havoc on my body, damaging cells, destroying health and abusing the gift my body was meant to be.
What turned it all around for me? After forty five years of marriage my husband passed away and I realized all the time I had wasted not talking and dealing with my pain. I tried to fix my disappointments and loneliness with food instead of risking a conversation. I knew I couldn’t waste anymore of my life being so destructive. I did not want another day of my life to slip away stuck in this place, this prison.
Maybe you can relate to the feelings that I have described. Maybe your story is similar to mine. I want you to know that you don’t have to stay stuck in that destructive place. I want you to know that you can move forward if you are willing to be patient and learn how to take baby steps like I had to learn.
You can learn how to develop a healthy lifestyle that will nourish your body and honor the gift that God has given you. You also need courage, as I also had to discover, to be willing to ask for help, support and accountability. With God’s strength and a willingness to invite someone to come along side you, you too can reach new goals for your life and health.
What is coaching and how is it different from counseling?
Coaching is about moving forward. A coach will help you bridge the gap between where you are and where you desire to go. It is a powerful process for sustainable change. Unlike counseling or therapy, coaching is less threatening, less about problem solving, more about helping you reach your potential.
- Coaching is not for people who need therapy to overcome painful influences from the past; coaches help people build vision and move toward the future.
- Coaching is not about looking back; it’s about looking ahead.
- Coaching is not about healing; it’s about growing.
- Coaching focuses less on overcoming weaknesses and more about building skills and strengths.
Why would anyone want to have a coach?
Coaching can help you:
- Get unstuck.
- Build your confidence.
- Expand your vision of the future.
- Fulfill your dreams.
- Unlock your potential.
- Take practical steps toward your goals.
Barb and Lisa, What makes you different from other coaches?
First and foremost we are Christian coaches. It is our desire to help woman realize their God given potential and purpose and to encourage them to be all that God called them to be.
Another way in which we are unique is that we are a mother and daughter team. Each of us draws our passion for wanting to help women from our own life experiences and not just how they have shaped us into the women we are, but also the women we ourselves are becoming as we reach out and help other women. Our own journeys have made us sensitive to the obstacles and struggles that women today often face and leave us with a heart for helping women move forward in their own journeys.
Finally, we coach a lot in the area of health and weight. In doing so we believe in helping women design a healthy lifestyle, not simply finding another diet to try. We shift the focus off the scale and onto simply living well. We look at the entire picture of your life and not just calories in and out to help you design an individualized program that is sustainable and allows you to live free of the dieting and deprivation mentality that so many women find themselves in.
What exactly do you do that could help me?
We help you develop better skills like being able to anticipate who you can become and what you can achieve. We help you overcome self-defeating habits or insecurities, manage relationships, and develop effective ways to keep improving in a desired area of your life.
We will work with you to think and look beyond the present, more clearly envision the future, and help you plan how to get to where you want to go. We are willing to speak the truth in love when we notice the best way to help you is by refusing to ignore harmful behavior patterns.
We will gently nudge you to deal with attitudes and behavior that should be faced and changed. As Christian coaches we want to not just help you reach your goals, but help you to become the person God has called you to be.
What happens in the coaching session?
Coaching is a relationship that is most often client centered and goal directed. Coaching usually happens over the phone, but can be done in person.
Every coaching situation is unique, but usually we will begin by exploring the issues that you want to change and areas in which you want to grow. As Christian coaches we may seek to help you see where God appears to be leading you.
We will facilitate a process that will help you get clarity on where you presently are in the area in which you desire to grow or change. We will look at your strengths, weaknesses, abilities, interests, passions, values, worldviews, and hopes.
Usually we will use tools, such as assessments, to enable you to learn more about yourself. We will then assist you in creating a vision, developing goals and designing a personalized plan to reach those goals.
When obstacles get in the way, we will challenge, encourage, and hold you accountable so that you can get past those obstacles and experience success. We will help you to remove blinders, giving a new perspective when needed.
We will be your biggest cheerleader, and believe in you as you move forward toward your goals. As Christian coaches we will prayerfully listen to your concerns and ask questions that will give you clarity on your situation, get you past the blocks, realize your God-given potential, and challenge you to be all that God called you to be.
How do I know if coaching is right for me?
Coaching is for those:
- Who want to grow and change.
- Who are willing to consider new ideas, values, and behaviors.
- Who are not currently in counseling.
- Who are willing to make the necessary changes in one’s life to reach their goals.
- Who are willing to engage in exercises and homework that could bring about change and growth.
- Who are open to learning from others.
- Who are willing to be held accountable.
- Take responsibility for their choices and actions.
- Who are committed to showing up consistently for the coaching process.
How can I be guaranteed that I will see results from coaching?
Those individuals that show up for all the coaching sessions, participate and do all the given assignments, and stay focused on their goals will see results. Realize that this is not a “quick fix method” to change. Clients must diligently apply themselves and take personal responsibility for their choices and actions throughout the coaching process.
Can I contact former clients to see what it is like to work with you?
Yes, we encourage you to! Please go to the testimonial page and read them all. See which ones that you are drawn to, which ones resonate with you. Feel free to email us for their contact information so that you get the opportunity to hear what it is like to work with us or in one of our programs.
Barb and Lisa, based on everything I’ve read and heard about you, I know that I would like to work with you. What are my options for getting started?
Please feel free to go to our contact page and email us to set up a free 15 minute consultation. Also check out our services page to see what type of coaching is right for you. We look forward to hearing from you!